Why this “EGO” comes in relations?

I really want to find it out friends, but I do not really know why does it comes in between the relations of care and love. 😦

I have seen many cases where the wife submits herself to the husband entirely, but still H tries to show her some authority, as if he is possessing her, And the day W starts speaking, his male ego comes in more and he just cannot digest it at all. Here, in this story Mr H is quite cool in front the entire world outside his room but really cruel inside the room. Though he never hit his wife but time and again tries to exploit her, financially, and mentally. But any ways it is also a kind of harassment and part of domestic violence :(.

W wanted to talk to H but H is just showing attitude all the times. They are not in talking terms since their marriage, she tries to talk, share her opinions, know his views, but there is no reply of anything. Now W became quiet for last 3 months and H has no access to even physical relations, now he got worried and he wanted that, for the first time since their relationship of four years, he begged her pardon and told that all his arguments were rubbish and he feels really sorry. She was said and she knew why it was all happening but still she was happy that atleast he gave importance to the relation more than his ego for the first time in his life. For the next one week, she never met with tears, which she always had to for last two or more years. She was thanking to God and also to Corona, that because of fear of this virus he had to stay at home, work from home, so he had none else than W, around him, in the name of human being. Therefore W was though quite happy but suspicious as well, because when his mood changes nobody knows.

Now, this unfateful day came yesterday, when she just saw him asking current GK questions from his brothers and kids in the family, and she thought he will be happy to talk to her on these issues. Hence she tried to ask him about the news of the day, but the reply was not much surprising for her “You have the same access to the internet and you can read as well”. Finished. So this was the end of every thing again. Now till the late night he was just watching the funny videos and all, which he shared with W also, in last one week, but now all of a sudden he separated himself.

Neither W understands that nor could I do that. Why and where from it came all of a sudden and there is no reason for anything under the sky ever for what he has to say to W.

Now friends you people can share your opinions as to why do people have such attitude and why do they have to behave so strangely?? That too with their wife and none else.

Wife is the only person with whom a husband shares everything, then why not emotions, fears, weaknesses, and opinions?? This will make her happy and once she is happy being with him, he will also be happy for sure, I believe.

Because Human Being, being Social Creatures, are bound to need atleast one such person in their lives with whom they can share all sorrows and happiness of their life and on whose shoulder they can cry if needed and can they can actually be shadows for each other and they can actually protect each others’ back. But the base for all these things is the mutual understanding, which is a must.

I wish this and what my readers have to say, reaches to Mr H and he can try to understand it, rather than behaving like a psycho.

24 Comments

    1. I love your posts. I am so concerned about the plight of women. It is a neglected topic. I firmly believe the issues start in the home where generationally, boys are broken, abused by their fathers and also not held accountable. They are poisoned by society and become ego driven, womanizing callous brats. Some fathers do not counteract evil society influence.

      Even though they are in this condition, these men can typically get all the women they want.
      Girls are conditioned to settle for less and put up with it, so they marry these kinds of men and start the cycle all over again. Yet, few people seem to talk about it or care.

      Boys should be bred and taught to value women, have healthy relationships, and learn healthy expression and release of negative emotions.
      Girls should be taught to know their worth and not to settle for less, but have high standards for their man. Ego maniacs need to stay single and get right.

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        1. Right! Mutual respect and valuing of each other.. Many women simply want to be seen as equally valuable, not less than.

          Some men are so insecure, they can’t tolerate it if they don’t treat women as less than, and mistreat them in various ways.
          It as if he feels he “validates” himself by devaluing her.

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      1. Oh my God I love your thoughts on this and I appreciate your contributions. I wonder what has become of the generation! We grew up in loving and respectable families with mutual respect as individuals.
        What hurts most is the abuse by fathers, abnormal in our early days. I guess it is part of the fallout of the relativism of morality. Even as individuals clarify their own values, I thought it is only right that girls must be respected and as you remarked, “girls should be taught to know their worth and not settle for less…” You know it is amazing and unexplanable how a good number of girls often find ego maniacs and self-conceited boys attractive for relationship. I guess it is what gives rise to your apt comment: “Girls are conditioned to settle for less and put up with it, so they marry these kinds of men and start the cycle all over again”. I really love your contribution, dear.

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        1. Thank you! 😊
          I totally agree with what you say. It is what I have observed, that father absenteeism, whether it be physical, spiritual,or emotional, is the biggest problem of the day. It starts children off on the wrong track.

          Studies show how much more trouble both boys and girls get into when their father is absent. Sometimes, fathers are somewhat there in the home, but they mainly just bring home money and do not connect properly with and instruct their children properly. Some are abusive.

          In particular, many fathers are neglecting to model for their boys how to be a real man. Absolutely! Boys often are broken and bitter from the dysfunctional relationships they had with their father, and they target the women in their lives later with their anger, self-hatred, and insecurity. Many of these men are very dangerous.

          Women often put up with it and create families with such. Cycle starts all over, and yes, for some reason, plenty women seem to be attracted to evil men. I agree. I am not sure if it is the charm or what. Part of it I believe, is the sensed danger that women find exciting, and women have been conditioned to believe that toxic characteristics are masculine.

          When women meet mean, aggressive, angry men, I believe they equate their traits to strength and masculinity as well.The thought processes of many need to be renewed, purged of the toxicity, confusion, and falsehoods.

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          1. I agree with you entirely on every aspect of your analysis. There is so much to learn from your thoughts on this subject, my dear. Thanks very much indeed for your contribution. It means so much to me and to all readers here.

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