Lifepartners (I will avoid saying husband here since the word itself is discriminatory in the sense of one being ruled by the other), who respect and love their wives are not slaves. Rather they are sons of those able mothers who have taught them to respect women as humans.
please do that and never stop loving your wife and doubting just because some of your blood relatives have told you that doing this can break your family. Rather not loving them will break many hearts and lives.
Also please never compair in blood relation or marital relationship as both are important and have their separate value.